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Sexual harassment. Fiction.
Middle schools. Fiction.
Schools. Fiction.
Best friends. Fiction.
Friendship. Fiction.
Single-parent families. Fiction.
Family life. Fiction.
In her latest, Dee (Everything I Know about You, 2018) tackles sexual harassment and gaslighting in middle school. The subject of the abuse here is seventh-grader Mila, who is targeted by a group of boys first for coerced hugging and then distressing incidents of lewd comments and touching. Whenever she attempts to stick up for herself, Mila is effectively silenced by accusations of "overreacting." Readers follow Mila's plight as she navigates both these provocations and the changing economic landscape of her home life. In addition, Dee pens interesting side characters such as Mila's friend Max, who once faced discrimination on account of his sexuality. Important for its relevance and examination of the otherwise little-discussed topic of sexual harassment among younger teens, Maybe He Just Likes You will appeal to middle-grade readers as well as parents and educators seeking to bolster a child's awareness of this rampant problem. In both Mila and Max, readers will find tenacious characters who model bravery in the midst of adversity.
Kirkus ReviewsA seventh grader copes with sexual harassment organized and perpetrated by several boys in her class.Mila's conversational first-person narration makes her experiences immediate and her emotions clear. Confused, frustrated, angry, and scared, Mila feels even worse because she can't count on her usual circle of friends. Zara seems weirdly envious of the boys' attention. Quiet Omi hates confrontation. And Max is busy with new student (and his new crush) Jared. He's also disappointed that Mila won't take his advice to report the harassment. Meanwhile, Mila's divorced mom just lost her job, and looking after her younger sister takes more time and energy than Mila has sometimes. Adding in band practice, karate classes, and making some new friends creates a story that feels almost as overstuffed as the typical middle schooler's life. Dee's smooth writing style and short chapters, however, keep the action moving briskly. The topic—and the boys' actions—is potentially upsetting but never described in a graphic or gratuitous way. Mila's reluctance to involve her mother or other adults feels believable, if unfortunate, and her internal dialogues about what is happening and why ring true. The eventual, hard-won resolution does require adult intervention, and it's satisfying to see the adults own up to their own shortcomings. Mila and Max present white; Omi is Latinx (from the Dominican Republic), and Zara presents black.This timely exploration of a depressingly common experience should begin some useful conversations. (Fiction. 10-14)
Publishers Weekly (Fri Oct 06 00:00:00 CDT 2023)Dee (
Gr 4-8 The first time the group of boys asked for hugs, seventh grader Mila felt uncomfortable. As the requests for hugs and unwanted touches increase in frequency, Mila does not know where to turn. Her mother is going through a tough time herself, and Mila doesn't want to add to her stress. Some of her friends brush off her complaints of unwanted attention as flirting. When Mila finds out that touching her has become a game to the boys and attempts to confront them, they deny action and intent. Her initial efforts to get help from staff at her school are met with heartbreakingly minimized responses . This relatable text provides young readers with a believable example of what sexual harassment may look and feel like at a middle school level. Dee creates a varied cast of characters with evolving perspectives, including adults who were initially dismissive of Mila's harassment. Told from Mila's point of view, the novel is at its best in moments of emotional intensity. Mila's reaction to her situation sometimes surprises even herself, when her initial doubts and fear turn to rage. Mila ultimately finds tools and allies who help resolve her situation, though the conclusion seems speedy compared to the rest of the story. VERDICT An important read with great potential for classroom use. Mila's experience may resonate with young readers, who may need to follow up with a trusted adult. Juliet Morefield, Multnomah County Library, Portland, OR
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Every day that September, the four of us escaped outdoors. The weather was warm (a little too warm for fall, if you thought about it), and the cafeteria smelled gross, like melted cheddar cheese and disinfectant. So when the bell rang for lunch, we each grabbed something fast--a container of yogurt, a bag of chips, an apple--and ran out to the blacktop, where you could play basketball or run around, or just talk with your friends and breathe actual oxygen for thirty minutes.
Today was Omi's twelfth birthday, and we'd planned a surprise. While Max distracted her inside the cafeteria, Zara and I would run out to the blacktop and make a giant O out of pebbles. The O was my idea: her actual name was Naomi-Jacinta Duarte Chavez, but we called her Omi for short.
And the thing about Omi was that she collected things from nature--seashells, bird feathers, stones in weird shapes and colors. So first we'd give Omi a birthday hug inside the O, and then we'd give her a little red pouch of chocolate pebbles--basically M&M's, but each one a different pebbly shape and color. It wouldn't be some generic babyish birthday celebration, with cupcakes for the whole class, like you did in elementary school. Just something personal and private, for our friends.
But what happened was, the exact second Zara and I stepped outside, Ms. Wardak, the lunch aide, blocked us. Usually she ignored us, and we ignored her back. Although not today, for some reason.
"Why are you girls out here?" she demanded. "You're supposed to go get lunch first."
"We know, but it's our friend's birthday," Zara said. "And we wanted to make her name out of pebbles."
"I'm sorry, what?" Ms. Wardak's whistle bounced on her chest.
"Just her first initial," I said.
"Out of pebbles?" Ms. Wardak asked. "That's a birthday present?"
Suddenly I was feeling a little sticky inside my fuzzy green sweater. We didn't have time for this conversation. And we definitely didn't have time to explain seventh graders, if Ms. Wardak didn't understand things.
"It's not the whole present," I said quickly. "Just one little thing we wanted to do. And please, we really do need to hurry. Because our friend is coming out here any second, so."
Ms. Wardak sighed, like she didn't have the energy to argue that normal humans liked their presents pebble-free, and in boxes. "Fine. Just be sure you clean up the mess afterward, girls. I don't want any basketball players to trip."
"Oh, we won't be anywhere near the basketball hoop," Zara promised. "That's kind of the opposite of where we'll be. We're usually over where it's more private--"
I tugged her sleeve. Sometimes Zara didn't keep track of time very well. And anyway, I couldn't see a reason to share our lunchtime habits with Ms. Wardak.
We ran over to the far edge of the blacktop, where a strip of pebbles divided the ground into School and Not-School. Often during lunch my friends and I hung out here and just talked. Or sang (mostly that was Zara, who world-premiered her own compositions). Or pebble-hunted (mostly that was Omi, although sometimes me, too). One time Max and I joined a game called untag on the blacktop--not elementary school tag, but a whole different version, with crazy-complicated rules. Although usually we hung out just the four of us, because I had band right after lunch, and we wouldn't be together the rest of the afternoon.
"Hey, Mila, look at this one--it's literally purple!" Zara shouted at me as she crouched over the pebbles. "And ooh, this one sort of looks like an arrowhead! Or Oklahoma!"
"We don't have time to pick individually." I scooped up a handful of pebbles and started laying them out on the blacktop. "Come on, Zara, just help make the O."
"All right, all right," she pretend-grumbled. "How big?"
"I don't know, big enough for the four of us to stand in, so it's like an O for Omi. And also a Circle of Friendship." I'd thought of that just now; although I couldn't decide if it was cute or stupid.
Zara loved it. "Circle of Friendship! Oooh, that's perfect, Mila!" She began singing. "Cir-cle of Friennndshhhii--"
"Eek, hurry! I see them coming!"
Max and Omi were scurrying toward us, dodging a basketball. I hadn't seen it happen, but somehow, over the past minute, a game had started on the other end of the blacktop. The usual boys--Callum, Leo, Dante, and Tobias--crashing into each other. Banging the ball against the blacktop: thwump, thwump. Shouting, laughing, cheering, arguing.
"Over here!" I could hear Callum shouting at the others. His voice was always the one that reached my ears. "Here! Throw it to me!"
We finished the O just as our friends arrived.
"HAPPPYYY BIIIRRTHDAAAY!" Zara shouted, opening her arms wide. "Look, Omi, we made you an O! For your initial, and also a literal Circle of Friendship! Which was Mila's idea," she added, catching my eye.
Omi clapped her hands and laughed. "I love it, you guys--it's beautiful! Thank you! I'll treasure it always!"
"Well, maybe not always," I said, grinning. "It's just a temporary work of art."
"Yeah, you know, like a sand sculpture," Max said. His big blue eyes were shining. "Or have you ever seen a Buddhist sand mandala? They use these different colors of sand--it's incredibly cool--and then they destroy it. On purpose." Max's mom was a Buddhist, so he knew all sorts of things like that.
"Huh," Zara said. "Fascinating, Max, but a little off topic." She pulled Omi inside the O. "Birthday hug! Everyone in!"
The four of us crowded into the O and threw our arms around each other. Because I was shorter than everyone else, I found myself in the middle of the hug, staring straight into Zara's collarbone. I'd never noticed it before, but she had a tiny snail-shaped freckle on her neck, two shades darker than her light brown skin.
"Okay, this is great, but promise you won't sing 'Happy Birthday'!" Omi was giggling.
"Sorry, Omi, it's required by headquarters," Zara replied.
She began singing in her strong, clear alto. Still hugging, Max and I joined in, a bit off-key, but so what. We were just up to "Happy birthday, dear Oooo-mi" when something brushed my shoulders. A hand.
Suddenly we were surrounded by the basketball boys--Callum, Leo, Dante, and Tobias. They'd locked arms around us and were singing along. Well, sort of singing.
"Happy birthday to yooouuu," Callum shouted into my hair. His breath on my neck made me shiver.
Now the song was over, but the hug was still happening, Callum's hand clamping the fuzz of my green sweater. The basketball boys smelled like boy sweat and pizza. I told myself to breathe slowly, through my teeth.
"What are you doing, Leo?" Zara laughed, a bit too loudly. Or maybe it just felt loud because she was so close. "Who said you could join the hug?"
"Don't be nasty--we just wanted to say happy birthday," Leo said. "Not to you, Zara. To Omi."
Zara flinched. It was a quick-enough flinch that maybe I was the only one who noticed. But then, I knew all about Zara's giant crush on Leo, who had wavy, sandy-colored hair, greenish eyes, and just a few freckles. He was cute, but in a Hey, don't you think I'm cute? sort of way.
I wriggled my shoulder, but Callum's hand was squeezing. And not leaving.
Now I could feel my armpits getting damp.
"Well, thanks, but I'm kind of getting smooshed here," Omi called out. "So if you guys wouldn't mind--"
"Okay, sorry!" Leo said. "Happy birthday, Omi! Bye!"
All at once, like a flock of birds, they took off for the basketball court.
Immediately my friends and I pulled apart, and I could breathe normally again.
"Okay, that was weird," I said, brushing boy molecules off the fuzz of my sweater.
"Oh, Mila, don't be such a baby," Zara said. "They were just being friendly."
I snorted. "You think getting smooshed like that is friendly?"
"Yeah, Zara," Max said. "You're only saying that because you like Leo."
Zara gave a short laugh. "All right, Max, I agree, the whole thing was incredibly awkward, but I thought it was kind of sweet. Didn't you, Omi?"
"I don't know, I guess," Omi said. "Maybe." She shrugged, but she was smiling. Also blushing.
Max's long hair was in his face, so I couldn't see his eyes. "Well, they wrecked the O," he muttered.
He was right: the pebbles were scattered everywhere. No more Circle of Friendship, or O for Omi.
"Dang," I said. "Well, we did promise Ms. Wardak we'd clear off the pebbles. So we should put them back now anyway."
"Who's Ms. Wardak?" Omi asked.
"You know. The lunch aide." I started kicking the pebbles over to the edge of the asphalt, and so did Max.
"Oh, who cares about her, Mila," Zara said impatiently. "She's not even a teacher, and she doesn't pay attention." She grabbed Omi's hand. "We have another present for you, and it's so much better! Look!"
Zara reached into her jeans pocket and pulled out the little red sack of chocolate pebbles.
Omi screamed. "Omigod, you guys, I love these! How did you know?"
"Because we're your best friends and we do pay attention," Zara replied, beaming.
I almost added that they were my idea. But I decided that wouldn't be best-friendly.
Excerpted from Maybe He Just Likes You by Barbara Dee
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2019 The Washington Post Best Children’s Book of the Year (Erin Entrada Kelly Pick)
A 2020 ALA Notable Children’s Book
“The novel’s all-too-familiar scenario offers a springboard for discussion among middle schoolers…Easily grasped scenarios and short chapters help make this timely #MeToo story accessible to a wide audience.” —Publishers Weekly (starred review)
“Realistic and heartbreaking.” —BCCB
Barbara Dee explores the subject of #MeToo for the middle grade audience in this heart-wrenching—and ultimately uplifting—novel about experiencing harassment and unwanted attention from classmates.
For seventh-grader Mila, it starts with some boys giving her an unwanted hug on the school blacktop. A few days later, at recess, one of the boys (and fellow trumpet player) Callum tells Mila it’s his birthday, and asks her for a “birthday hug.” He’s just being friendly, isn’t he? And how can she say no? But Callum’s hug lasts a few seconds too long, and feels…weird. According to her friend, Zara, Mila is being immature and overreacting. Doesn’t she know what flirting looks like?
But the boys don’t leave Mila alone. On the bus. In the halls. During band practice—the one place Mila could always escape.
It doesn’t feel like flirting—so what is it? Thanks to a chance meeting, Mila begins to find solace in a new place: karate class. Slowly, with the help of a fellow classmate, Mila learns how to stand her ground and how to respect others—and herself.
From the author of Everything I Know About You, Halfway Normal, and Star-Crossed comes this timely story of a middle school girl standing up and finding her voice.