A prolific poet and author of children's literature, Alexander deploys his skillful lyricism to explore themes of failure in family and love in this genre-blending memoir. In narrative poems and short prose chapters, Alexander examines his relationships with his parents, his spouse, and his children with characteristic candor. Recollecting the unraveling of his parents' relationship ("I never saw my parents hold / each other's hands"), the author turns to address his child as his own marriage falls apart: "you're wondering why you never saw us / holding hands." But Alexander also makes space for sizzling moments of sensuality from the early days of dating: "Maybe she is thirsty, / so she pulls the cork / the wet legs on her glass / pressing for a sweet taste." An epicure at heart, Alexander intersperses recipes throughout the book, including those for 7 Up pound cake and jollof Caesar salad, often pairing recipes with music to enjoy while preparing the dishes, such as "Love Tastes like Strawberries," by Somi, and "Moody's Mood," by George Benson. A refreshing entry in the author's bountiful oeuvre.

A poetic and epistolary collage focused on familial, romantic, and nourishing love."This is not a traditional memoir," writes Newbery Medalist Alexander in the first of three introductions. "These are just snapshots of a man learning to love. Again." In the second introduction, "A Letter to My Daughters," the author writes, "All the things I wished I could have learned from my mother and was too afraid to ask my father are between these covers." In the third, "How to Read This Book," he advises, "Let these humble meditations and musings / carry you close, permanent, abreast-a wave." The remaining sections of the book include "Looking for Me," "A Letter to My Mother," and an eponymous section. Using poetry, prose, and recipes, Alexander reminiscences about healing his long-distant relationship with his father; moving forward following the death of his beloved mother; being inspired to become a writer by-and being a college student of-Nikki Giovanni ("My first grade in Nikki's class was a C‑minus. I was disappointed, but not discouraged"); the beginning and end of marriage ("and I remember feeling defeated / at not having a key / to my own wife's apartment"); and myriad lessons about how to live a curious and wholehearted life. "Part of moving yourself forward in a life-giving way," he writes to one of his children, "is to take the things from the past that have helped shape and mold you and use them as anchors to the future." Writing about certain recipes, the author describes when and why he makes them-e.g., "this 7UP pound cake represents family tradition, connection, and love. Now, for the best results, don't go substituting Sprite"; and Granny's hot buttered rolls ("What I'm listening to while I bake: ‘Brighter Day' by Kirk Franklin"). Alexander connects disparate forms through his disarmingly forthright, humble voice, familiar vernacular, and optimism.This magnanimous hybrid-form memoir is rich with solace and wisdom.

In this heartfelt memoir, Newbery medalist Alexander (Rebound) churns on what he has learned—and is still learning—about love. He traces his model for romance to his parents, who taught him to “use his words,” but were rarely affectionate and lived apart for decades. He shares hard-won lessons from the painful dissolution of his own marriages and his grief not only for those relationships but also for the questions he became too afraid to ask his father after his mother's death. Finally, he turns to his daughters and confronts the difficulty of embracing solitude as they grow up and away from the family home. Interleaved through these reflections are sensuous memories of meals and music, from cracking a $250 beer with poet Nikki Giovanni to reverse engineering his mother’s fried chicken recipe after she died. Alexander observes that “we sometimes find poems in the strangest and most uncomfortable places,” and, indeed, this candid and courageous work finds poetry in places both ordinary and extraordinary. It’s a quiet triumph. Agent: Deneen Howell, Williams & Connolly. (May)Correction: An earlier version of this review incorrectly stated that both of the author's parents are deceased.